Divorce is life-changing. It impacts couples in many ways, including emotionally, physically, and financially. For couples expecting a child, there is much more at stake. The natural anticipation and worry that comes with pregnancy are only amplified by those emotions that come with divorce.
Here are some tips for a healthy pregnancy during divorce, and a positive co-parenting relationship after your little bundle of joy arrives:
Everything comes second to the health of you and your baby. While divorce can be stressful, it is important to ensure that you are eating right, getting plenty of rest, and keeping up with your obstetrical care.
Science shows that babies can sense when a mom is stressed. Take care of yourself and do things that that make you feel good, such as meditation, massage, and low-impact exercise, all of which are great ways to relieve stress.
It can be difficult to let go of the vision you had for your family. But guilt is a toxic emotion that benefits no one. It weighs you down and keeps you anchored to the past. Love is not always meant to last, but that does not mean you and your ex cannot work together to raise your child in a loving, supportive environment.
Do not feel bad about saying goodbye to something that was simply not meant to be. Instead, focus on the bright new adventure ahead of you.
If you ever needed a good support network around you, it is now. Not only will you need the emotional support your friends and family can provide – as a single parent, you may need some practical help as well, especially when it comes to babysitting.
Asking for help does not mean you are not capable. Support, rest, and self-care make you a better parent. And with all this support around you, your baby will receive that much more love and attention.
There are practical concerns to address well before your baby’s arrival. To prevent disputes or stir up the painful issues that caused you to divorce in the first place, have a sound parenting plan in place before the birth.
Your parenting plan should address anything and everything related to your baby’s care, including feedings, doctor’s appointments, visits, etc. Monmouth County divorce lawyers consider the unique physical and emotional needs of your newborn when creating a parenting plan, and can revisit it as your child grows and their needs continue to evolve.
If you are pregnant and divorcing, you should not attempt to navigate legal matters alone. To protect your rights and those of your unborn baby, seek the guidance of a Monmouth County divorce lawyer with experience in situations similar to your own. Even the friendliest divorces can take a turn for the worst when custody and visitation issues are involved. A good lawyer always makes your child’s best interests their top priority.
You may consider putting off your co-parenting legal matter until your child is born. Yet those early days and weeks with a newborn are exhausting. You do not want the added stress of negotiating visitation, custody, and other co-parenting issues.
To learn about your legal options if you are divorcing while pregnant, schedule a free consultation with a caring and knowledgeable Monmouth County divorce lawyer at Fox & Melofchik, L.L.C. We will assess your situation, discuss your parenting goals, and answer any questions you may have so you can feel confident that you are making the best choices for your family. Contact us through our online form or call us at 732-493-9400 to arrange a meeting.
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